Insecure about the Possibilities...?

Something I don't care for and have noticed about people is, even though they're being told "be yourself" and things like that, what it means is "step into this category of the you that we have created". And people buy this and still feel the insecurity of the possibility of being judged. I really hate it because people act confident until they think they might possibly hurt someones feelings. I mean hurting someones feelings isn't nice but people are wimps about their feelings nowadays and are easily offended. Instead of saying sorry because you feel like you should, you should say sorry when you actually feel sorry about something. You shouldn't say things because you think it's the right thing to say in certain situations such as when someone asks your honest opinion. I mean if you're saying what you think they need to hear, that's different. You shouldn't hold back what you think because someone might think you're weird. Seriously, be yourself. Your honestly unique self that does or doesn't do crazy things because you like to or don't like to do them. Maybe you love going in the lake and splashing around crazily but what you tell others is you hate playing in water because mud. Don't be lying to people because you think they might think you're cool. It's extra stress that you don't ever need. Give long hugs. Go into martial arts. Go let the world know your sexual orientation. No matter what you are interested in, you're still a person that has the right to be interested in anything that you are seriously interested in. I feel as thought this hiding and being frightened that people won't accept you for you is absurd and shouldn't matter as much as it obviously does. I mean I am a 20 year old virgin that loves reading, drinking tea and apple juice, loves going to church, and swing dances. It's an interesting combination with my being a hairstylist that doesn't really smoke. I'm also nerdy and very smiley and laugh a lot. I act strange in many ways mostly because I want people to smile and that has worked for me for the most part. I just wish caring and letting go was something more people felt comfortable with doing because I feel as though more people might be happier and be able to take nice, relaxing, deep breaths. I just hope in a few years things might calm down. That is all. Goodnight and see you all on the other side.