Rather than think of the outward appearance, men and women should look at more than the outward and see the inward that is so very special. People shouldn't developed feelings because of the way someone looks. If that's one reason, which it will be, it should be one of the last reasons rather than the first or second. Something that a woman or man believes strongly or something you think is the best about them is the first. If it's the looks then maybe you just shouldn't be trying to find someone until you find some depth in yourself and be a deep sea diver instead of a shallow person. I mean, when has 'being shallow' ever been a good thing? Its loving someone because they wear make up? It's loving someone because they brush their hair? What crap is this? That is no love. That is just utter stupidity and crap. If you want to believe it, I'm not judging you, no way! Its just not a safe way to live with someone. Deciding if the world is ready for your real person. No, you decide when you are ready for anything. Be careful dear friends. There are so many shallow waters but if you walk a bit longer, you'll find that ocean.